Reflecting on the future of XP with various consultants
A photo Kirsten took of Jack lying on a bench at de Schapenkooi near Ermelo

Hello dearest reader,

How are you? How are you feeling? Are you busy growing? Trying to grow up? It’s ok to stop... How do you feel about the future? It’s ok to feel down… Does the future scare you? Do you prefer to think about the past? Or are you chilling right here right now in the present moment? It’s all good, fall is good for reflection in every direction. Up, down, inward, outward, sideways. Look at your leaves before you let them go. Come spring we’ll continue to grow. 

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This is a newsletter about how we accidentally became children in our attempt to grow up. It’s Emma speaking, writing to you from a café in Barcelona. I was supposed to write this a week ago, but editing it while being away from the studio actually feels pretty good. It’s always a little easier to reflect on things once you have some distance from them, don’t you think?

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Last summer I took a trip with my dad, with a similar goal: to reflect on life, together, from a distance. We discussed various topics: work, money, art, love, the past, the future. I love my dad, we share a sense of humor and playful creativity, even though he has worked in offices most of his life as an executive consultant. He values hard work, family, comfort and stability, and although he is a chill and supportive dad, I sometimes worry that he might sometimes worry about my future, and what will become of me. I have no steady income, no partner, I do not own a house and I have not birthed any grandchildren yet either…when he was my age, he had all of those things. When will I grow up?

Two photos of Emma’s dad, one where he is about our age now, young Emma on his lap

When we talked about XP, dad the consultant asked me things like ‘where do you see that going, exactly?’, ‘have you guys figured out a way to make money yet?’, ‘what is your vision for Extra Practice?’ and suggested getting more serious and structured (his expertise is in leadership). I see his point, structures and systems can definitely bring clarity and make things grow and move faster.

But what is the point in growing or moving faster if you’re not sure what direction you want to grow or move in?

That’s why last week, with this question in mind, I prompted every XP member to prepare a 15 minute mini-workshop, in preparation for the Grown Up Business Trip were about to take. Our ‘XP Away-Day’ would be a perfect moment to think about the future together, from a distance: what we want from it, what direction we want to grow in, and how. And so we all met in Culemborg on October 31st and cycled through the dark to the attic we rented in a farmhouse next to the Lek (Leak) river. 

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